dating advice to my kids

it's been kind of difficult for me to really figure out what the purpose of a blog really is. i mean, is it for what's going on in your life or for deep thoughts that may not have any answers? i'm not really sure.

well, as of today X Games 15 is officially over. i've been obsessed with X Games for about 7 or 8 years. i know it seems quite odd i know but not really. the main reason i love it so much is because it's a sport where you have to go bigger and better every year- you can't settle for mediocrity. what won last year won't work again. they have to sacrifice their bodies too. and it's somewhat of an inspiration. they don't quit. one of my favourite moments was last year during skateboard big air. danny way who is one of the founders of the big air event (also the one who attempted a jump over the great wall of china) slammed so hard-got back up and when asked if he'd take his next runs, he replied- I'm taking every run. it was one of those amazing moments that actually can motivate you. yay for X Games.

so, i guess the deep thought for the day is brought to you by one of my students:
it's interesting when your students you've known and kind of taught for the past 4-5 years are now on their way to college and the subject of dating came up. i already know that i'm not a dating expert- i don't need to be informed of this but i don't think i'm a complete dud either.

so, most of my kids are going to Bible college. yeah, we've discussed what they think their future spouses will be like. i kind of listen and try not to laugh, but then i can't help it and laugh out loud. it's funny to me because i think i remember being that unrealistic-especially in college. and it's amazing how many kids want to marry someone that's perfect. seriously. or someone who can complete them.

oh yes, this is the kind of topic that begins 'parking lot convos with patty'. which is mostly called such because i can't hold my opinion to wherever we are going and thus end up having the conversation in the parking lot. and i came up with 2 things that i think are true: 1) if you're not comfortable alone, you never will be with anyone else because another person can't complete you. they weren't meant to and it's unfair to do that to put that pressure on them to be everything when it wasn't meant to be that way and 2) no one is perfect. i didn't come to that conclusion by dating someone and realising that "they aren't perfect but i can accept them the way they are". it was more of a "whoa, i'm not perfect and how dare i have the gall to ask for something that i'm not either". besides, aren't we all beautiful disasters trying to become better people everyday? well, we should be.

but as for my kids, they leave for college soon. i'll update within the year on how their dating lives turn out.

it could be interesting. ha!

love,
p